Pronouns, Gender & Why They Matter

Kieran O'SheaMembership Manager, Huckletree ShoreditchHuckletree10/14/2020

Pride isn’t just one month of the year. Transgender, gender fluid and non-binary people face misgendering, lack of awareness or support and often hostility in the workplace. We believe it’s vital to champion and celebrate those voices within our community.

Kieran, Membership Manager at Huckletree Shoreditch, is a vocal champion for gender identity both in Team Huckletree, and their East London Hub. After their Stay Home Sounds non-binary beats takeover sparked a wider conversation about pronouns in the workplace, I caught up with them to learn more about their identity, life at Huckletree and how we can all be better allies. Top tip: assumptions are cancelled.

How Do You Define Yourself?

“I’m Pangender, meaning I see gender as a spectrum. My gender encompasses the entirety of the gender spectrum and I feel free to move in that spectrum at any one given time (non-static). I prefer ‘he/she/they’ – if you’re writing a letter to me, use Mx.”

Have You Felt Able To Share Your Pronouns At Huckletree? If So, What Made You Feel Comfortable To Do So?

“At Huckletree, I have met some of the most diverse people in my life. I have been a part of so many fantastic conversations that are pushing the boundaries of equality and breaking down cultural borders. I have felt comfortable to be completely open, and celebrate my gender identity. From the diverse events we host/affiliate with that tackle important topics including “Women in Tech”, “Series Q” and “BAME in Games”, I have felt space created for voices to be heard and taken seriously. 

The diversity in our community hubs plays a huge role in being able to bring my whole self to work. Our members come from such different walks of life, different backgrounds, and different industries. I’ve broken bread with sex health companies, Gov tech, developers, photographers, creatives and innovation corporates, all in the same room and what brings them together is their modern thinking and liberal mindset. Everyone is welcome at the table – only together we can move the cultural needle.”

Why Is It Important for Businesses To Create Environments Where Team Members' Pronouns Are Used Correctly, And Gender Identity Is Paramount To People Provisions?

Businesses must write it into their constitution. Don’t leave anything ‘up in the air’ because what might be culturally obvious to a senior teammate might not be to another, and vice versa. These conversations trickle down AND bubble up. If you’re not allowing your team to bring 100% of themselves to work, you’re denying them their identity and also stunting their work.

For me to do my job well, I need to be me. My uniqueness is what makes me great, and you can’t pick and choose what parts of me you want. ‘I’ is the whole.

Don’t ring-fence your culture by not including those people. Innovation and company resilience is born out of having diversity in the board meetings, the brainstorms and design sprints. Lastly, people don’t do business with toxic masculinity.”

What's The One Piece Of Advice You'd Share With People Who Want To Support Their Team - Or Are Afraid They'll Get It Wrong/Offend Unintentionally? How Can We Be Better Allies?

You’re reading this, which means you’re on your way and I consider you an ally already. None of us gets it right all of the time and I think we all know there’s a lot of work to be done across the board when it comes to diversity and inclusion. Here are my personal top tips for gender inclusion:

1) Talk to LGBTQ+ people around you and see what you can be doing to be more active in your allyship. 

2) Pick up a book and understand the thought behind the identity. It’s up to you to know what the different gender identities mean – be woke, people. 

3) Let them be heard. Allow people to correct you and make them feel confident in doing so. I’m never offended by sensible questions or offended when I know the person I’m talking to welcomes that correction. That’s how you become a true ally.

4) If you don’t know their pronouns, STOP ASSUMING. Call them ‘they’ until they lend their pronoun/gender to you. I know some people might think this is a hard one, but it’s not! The only reason you assume someone’s gender is because of habit, and you just need to replace it with another. Trying is the first step!

5) Get your HR in check. Allow people to write their pronouns down and get it on the record for everyone to refer to – and revise those legal docs to stop saying he/she. “

Kieran O'Shea

Having hosted their very first fashion show at the age of 16, Kieran quickly moved into the world of events to breathe new life into a stale industry, before joining Huckletree, the home of community. Superpower: boundary breaker & creative crusader.


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